‘I wanna be thirty ... thirty & flirty & thriving.’
I remember being 13 years old, swinging on the swings in 2007, talking to my then best friend, mapping out our futures, talking about the ages we wanted to ‘accomplish’ life milestones.
When we got our first boyfriend we would be 16, we wanted to get married at age 22 (obviously marrying our high school sweetheart), buy a house & have our first kid by age 24. By age 30 our kids would be in school & we would be living our best lives. Its so funny to think back on this conversation because man, times have changed, so much.
Here I am, writing this 2 weeks before my 30th birthday.
I did not marry my high school sweetheart - nor did I have a high school sweetheart, I didn’t buy a house by age 24 & I don’t have any kids. It’s hard not to think back to Friends, ‘The one where they all turn thirty.’
There are so many people in my generation that grew up with the same goals, which basically boiled down to, have your sh*t together before you turn 30.
However, times have changed & that’s no longer the norm. People have their own timelines now, a lot of us are more interested in our careers & achieving financial freedom, most want to travel more than they want to own a home, they want to live their lives as much as possible before settling down & getting married & they have dogs instead of kids ...
This is my 30
I am happy & in love. My world is so full.
I have an amazing family that I am close to, love to spend time with & they fully support me.
I am in a healthy & happy, long-term relationship with a man I have known since I was 13! We have two dogs & we own a home together. We enjoy time together & have freedom to do what we want, when we want.
We are not married & don’t have kids but talk about the future & what it holds, kids, a new home, marriage, etc. We have created great careers for ourselves that we love & thrive in.
Between Zack & I, we have FOUR nephews, they bring so much excitement to our lives. We both come from BIG families, with our siblings, lots of cousins, aunt & uncles, we are very blessed. I am fortunate to still have grandparents & my great-grandmother still here to be a part of our lives.
Bottom line is, there is no time-line to life & just like I thought when I was 13, I will be living my best life in my 30s, just doing it a little differently ... the best is yet to come.
